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Two perspectives
Start with both sides.
Friction finder
Where could communication break down?
Open the areas that matter in your current work. You can explore more than one.
OwnershipWho owns the decision or action?
InformationWho knows what — and when?
TimingWhen does another team need to be involved?
DecisionsWho decides? Who contributes? Who needs to know?
PrioritiesAre teams optimizing for the same outcome?
ExpectationsDoes success mean the same thing to everyone?
Communication toolkit
Four moves for clearer alignment
ClarifyMake your intended meaning explicit.
- What this means in practice is...
- Just to make this explicit...
- The key point from our side is...
CheckFind out what the other person actually understood.
- How are you understanding this from your side?
- Is that consistent with how your team sees it?
- Can I check how you're interpreting this?
AlignClarify ownership, expectations or responsibilities.
- The way I understand the ownership is...
- Who would be responsible for this on your side?
- Can we align on who owns each part?
CloseMake the outcome of the conversation explicit.
- So, just to confirm, the next step is...
- Can we agree that X will happen before Y?
- I'll take X, and you'll take Y. Does that work?
You said / They heard
Close the interpretation gap.
Same message, different listener
Keep the idea. Adapt the context.
- What do they need to understand?
- What uncertainty should I remove?
- What action do I need from them?
- What needs coordination?
- What responsibilities need to be explicit?
- What should we confirm rather than assume?
- What context do they need?
- What outcome matters?
- What ownership or next step should be visible?
Adapt to the person’s role, context, information needs and relationship. Each listener has a separate saved draft.
Quick pre-meeting check
Before an important conversation
If three or more answers are unclear, spend two minutes preparing before the meeting.
Tick each question once you have considered it. This checklist starts fresh when you reload.
Take it back to work